Last decisions

Yesterday the decision was made for my former wife to go to a nursing home for her final days here on earth. Two children(17 & 18)are forced to live their lives without their mom. My daughter Cass said, "I thought she would be there to see her grandchildren." Just writing it brings tears to my eyes.

I never intended for our marriage to go wrong back then. Bad choices, a lot of pain and some serious situations outside of us, brought the marriage to an end. I waited 3 1/2 years for her return. Then she announced she was marrying someone else.

How has the decision affected our lives as a "family?" For me, it brought a new wife and 2 step children, a calling from God and many positive changes. For her, her relationships always seemed to end unsuccessfully.

What is it we can tell our kids? Is it reasonable for us to tell them "go ahead and do it" or "be happy" at the expense of hurting others? My life as a child was a very self serving life. Because of that I had many damaged relationships, hurts and fears. Why would I encourage others to go a path of "if it feels good, do it?"

My hope is that my children see the truth, that frequently questionable decision bring about more questions, along with a world of hurts.